When a loved one passes, your world is changed forever. You are suddenly faced with decisions you never thought you'd have to make and the time in which you have to make these decisions comes too quickly.
Who do you call first? Will you have a traditional burial or opt for cremation? Which Funeral Home should you use?
With the funeral industry ever evolving these options can seem overwhelming.
The decision to publish an obituary however does not need to be. A well written obituary can serve multiple purposes: it can be used as a bulletin or notice to those wanting to know the when and wheres of the service, it memorializes and tributes the who and answers the questions as to when and sometimes why.
There are several steps to take to write out a meaningful and informative obituary.
what is an obituary?
An obituary is an announcement of death, typically published locally, to honor the memory of the loved one lost and to give details about their service, burial and lifetime accomplishments.
Who writes the obituary?
Your Funeral Home can write the Obituary for you with a little help. You can chose to write the obituary yourself or with close family and friends. Sometimes people will even chose to write their own obituary before their death.
what to include in the obituary?
An obituary has a few main parts but can vary greatly depending on the deceased or those writing the obituary.
publishing an obituary
Once your obituary has been written and proof read it is time to release it to the world.
Where will you post the obituary so that others can read it?
Most Funeral Homes have an online presence where they post Obituaries and can help you get the word out.
Many chose to publish the obituary in a local newspaper - either local to where they are currently living or local to the deceased place of birth or home town. Newspapers also typically have an online presence so you get double exposure when posting with them. Obituaries often need to be shortened for newspaper posting as the fees associated with them are quite costly.
Another place you would consider posting the Obituary is the Funeral Programs or Funeral Cards.
funeral programs or cards
There are a lot of possibilities for what to include in your program. Typically these are bi-fold (folded in half) or tri-fold (folded in three).
There is always a cover page that includes that chosen photo of the deceased, their date of birth and death and quick details about the when and where of the service, reception and burial.
The inside can include the full length obituary, more photos, poems or special messages but most typically the order of service. This can be supplied by the minister if the service is to take place in a church or to be performed by a minister. This can be written by the family or Funeral Director if the service is non-religious. It includes readings and eulogies and the order of the ceremony.
The back of the program can include more photos, a poem, thank you's and typically the Funeral Home information.
Funeral guests typically keep programs as a keepsake so make sure to personalize them to represent the deceased and have enough on hand for all expected guests.
We, at Celebrate Life, offer our clients an Eternal Memorial Page on our website. This page will never be taken down - unless requested by the family. Visitors can upload pictures, send condolences, light a candle or recount memories of the deceased.
Please take some time to visit our Obituary page, view the pages of our clients and honor their memory.