Pictured above is one of the owners of Celebrate Life Funeral Services Ltd, Brittany Tucker.
How and why i transitioned from a wedding planner to a funeral home owner.
Hi, My name is Brittany, I am not usually the one who writes our blogs but I felt compelled to write this. I had come across an article on the Funeral One Blog titled:
What Funeral Directors Can (And Should) Learn From Wedding Planners
I felt that I could relate to it completely. Having owned my own wedding and event company for over 8 years, I feel that weddings and funerals are very similar in many ways.
Lets start from the beginning.... I had a beautiful little girl in 2008, I decided to stay home with her and not return to my job in the oilfield. After about 8 months I started looking into what jobs I could do that wouldn't take me away from my daughter and something that would be flexible for me and my families schedule.
I literally googled "Side jobs for stay at home moms". Two jobs popped up right away, Personal shopper and wedding planner. As much as I love shopping, I only like to shop for myself so the answer was obvious. Wedding planner, ironically a friend of mine was getting married around that time so I decided to give her a hand to "feel it out". Turns out I LOVED it and was actually very good. I have been known to be very organized and bossy, so I thought...I am going to be a perfect wedding planner.
We had this spare room in our home, it was lime green. I hated that room, but decided to make it into my new "Wedding planning office". I looked up different wedding planning websites, blogs and books and got started. I needed to come up with a name for my business, I googled wedding planners business names and couldn't find anything that I liked. One day I came up with "I Do" Wedding Planning, I thought I was so clever... Get it "I Do". Anyways, I went with it. "I Do" Wedding Planning. Done deal, I was going to be a wedding planner.
Moving forward I remember telling friends about my new business venture, I was so excited and looking forward to doing it. I heard from many people "who would pay someone to do their wedding, that is a stupid idea" I remember feeling slightly discouraged, but if you ask me what my motivation is? Spite and fear. So I went ahead and busted my tail and spent everyday trying to prove them wrong.
Fast forward 8 years, I was a full wedding planning, event planning and rental company. It had blown up. But I was ready for a change. I sold my company in early 2016 and decided to take time for myself and family. Being the person I am, I lasted not even 6 months and was back at it coming up with something I could do. My husband and I were talking about what I was going to do now, I joked and said I should be a Funeral Director. It is very similar to a wedding planner. With the sale of my business it stated I was no longer able to be a wedding planner in our community for competition purposes.
We were thinking of things our community needed, and a crematorium is something our community does not have. SO we did some research and seen the staggering statistics when it came to cremation and how it is on the rise. We knew it, that was it. We were opening a Funeral Home.
Fast forward again 2 years and here we are, We are now the proud owners of Celebrate Life Funeral Services Ltd. This year I will be starting my schooling to become a Licensed Funeral Director. :)
Since we have opened I have been working alongside our licensed staff and have learned so much about the funeral industry. As much as I respect the traditional funeral industry, I do see a need for some changes to be made. I have realized I alone CAN change the way people think and feel about our industry. How you ask??? Well, at our business we have an open door policy (but not all doors ;) we encourage people to stop by and see our facility. We have people that pop in for coffee after we have helped them with their loved one who has passed. I ask a client once..."Does coming back here remind you of that horrible time"? She replied "no, this place brings me comfort, I feel at peace when I come here" Boom! Mission accomplished. I know so many people who have gone through the process before we opened and they tell me they dread going back there. I remembered that when we opened up, and I vowed to myself I would change the way people feel here. It is like what Maya Angelou said... "People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did. But people will never forget how you made them feel."
Like weddings, I focused on the "Special Touches" for peoples services. I think it is so important to celebrate ones life. I have always been a sentimental person who thinks of great ways to remember someone so I have used that gift to incorporate into our business. I think that being a wedding planner for so long taught me to remain calm, be organized and gave me the ability to incorporate those talents into helping to organize some amazing celebrations of life.
I really could go on and on about our business and how I feel about everything, but statistics show most people who started reading this have already stopped because I went on a little longer then I should have.
I apologize in advance for my horrible grammar and punctuation, the spelling should be good as spell check is my best friend. I just decide to write this last minute as I read the article about Funeral Directors and Wedding Planners and it really did inspire me.
Here is the link the the article:
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